"When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn't a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes." - President Ronald Reagan, 1988Until recently, I wasn't even aware there was an official "Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance" month or day. Now of course I can't let it go by without posting something. The good news is that our situation rarely upsets me anymore; it's just become a fact of our lives. We have each other and the dog and three personal saints, and we're happy. I do credit the dog with cheering us up until we can acquire children by other means. However, the next best thing to fur therapy is music.
Over the years, I've been compiling a playlist of songs about loss which helped get me through some tough times. Some are sadder than others, but I thought I'd highlight a few of the best ones today. Someday I'll post a comprehensive list.
1. Daughtry, "Gone Too Soon"
2. Plumb, "I Want You Here"
3. RyanDan, "Tears of an Angel"
4. Canadian Tenors, "Watching Over Me" (because we don't want to end on a downer)