Priorities

I made the observation yesterday (I forget in response to what) that a simple litmus test for engaged couples would be one question.

"Would you still marry this person if you had to have a simple ceremony in plain clothes, and your honeymoon was cancelled?"

If her "Big Day" is more important than preparing for their subsequent marriage, that should raise the red flags.  It would at least be food for thought.  My husband liked it so much that he threatened to become a priest if I died young just to use that in his marriage prep classes.